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something to sleep to : Ludovico Einaudi - Le Onde

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lovely new fav

Current Music: ou Were - The Bird

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I'll no longer be posting on here.

Thanks for the excuse to put off homework :)

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Hundreds of anti-gay marriage protesters swarmed the Statehouse in Des Moines, IA on Wednesday demanding that voters be able to decide on same-sex laws.

``We hope to get the message across that we the people have a chance to vote on something as important as redefining marriage for all 3 million Iowans,'' said Chuck Hurley, a former Republican legislator who now heads the Iowa Family Policy Council, a conservative group that organized the rally.

Why should the majority be able to decide the rights for the minority? What would be next? Only Christians can be married? No inter-racial marriages?

I know I am pretty liberal in my moral beliefs, but I cannot wrap my head around how the marriage of two men (or women) redefine marriage for everyone else. I was raised to believe that marriage was between two people who love each other and want to spend their lives together. To me, a man that beats his wife is more of a disgrace to the concept of marriage than a man who loves his husband. Why aren't religious groups more concerned about the faults in heterosexual marriages? What about divorce? Spousal abuse? Or even worse, child abuse? I am sad to know that I have friends that believe a child is better off with no parents than two fathers (or mothers).

Maybe marriage needs to be redefined. For many couples (myself included) marriage is more of an economical benefit than anything else. Why not allow the state to grant civil unions to those couples that wish to be legally bound and leave "marriage" up to the churches?

Something else I find interesting... I was reading a except from Tim Harford's new book The Logic of Life about how divorce is good for women. The necessity of divorce is common sense but somehow it has gotten a bad rep. As states began to pass "no fault" divorce laws in the 70's domestic violence fell by almost a third, and the number of women murdered by their partners fell by ten percent. Female suicide also fell.

There is no evidence that marriages were happier in the 50's, they just didn't have a way out. Once "no fault" laws were passed, women and men realized that their significant other could leave whenever they so pleased. Therefore men and women began to work harder at making their spouse happy. More importantly it catapulted women into the work force. Women no longer could count on their husband for finical support. Although divorce rates have been falling for the last three decades, it would not necessarily be a good thing if it fell too far.

Maybe redefining marriage isn't too horrible of an idea, specially in a time and place where divorce is a good thing.

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I am having a hard time with the whole name change thing. I just cannot bring myself to let go of the name "Stone". Its me. Its who I've been. And well honestly I don't like the sound of "Tara Gill". So I've been playing with some ideas on how to handle this. My favored option as of the moment is making "Stone" a second middle name, making my name "Tara Rene Stone Gill". I would go by "Tara Stone Gill" for work/professional type things and just go by "Tara Gill" for my personal life. The reason for just having "Gill" as the last name opposed to hyphenating or just leaving "Stone Gill" as the last name is the want to have the same last name as my children. Opinions please!

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...it's so good to know you
For strength of your hand
That is loving and giving
And a happy new year
With love overflowing
With joy in our hearts
For the blessed new year

Raise your glass and we'll have a cheer
For us all who are gathered here
And a happy new year to all that is living
To all that is gentle, kind, and forgiving
Raise your glass and we'll have a cheer
My dear acquaintance, a happy new year

All of those who are hither and yonder
With love in our hearts
We grow fonder and fonder
Hail to those who we hold so dear
And hail to those who are gathered here

And a happy new year to all that is living
To all that is gentle, young, and forgiving
Raise your glass and we'll have a cheer
My dear acquaintance, a happy new year
Happy new year


If NYE was any indication of how this year is going to go... it is going to be one kick ass year!

It was beyond wonderful seeing all of my amazing friends again after a terribly too long separation. Of course Jan 1 will be nothing compared to Jan 19. It will be without a doubt one of the best nights of life (Until maybe March 1 :] ).

I can't believe how big of year this is going to be. Aside from the crazy fact that I'm getting married in less than two months... hopefully I'll get a real job sometime this year, move to a new place (woo hoo!) and finally get to live alone with Shane (again). Growing up ain't easy but it sure is exciting.

Current Location: Pella
Current Mood: optimistic optimistic
Current Music: My Dear Aquaintance ~ Regina Spektor

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At this science fair, students are creating new forms of life.


My sis introduced me to a new website (that I'm quickly falling in love with) and of course I was drawn to the science section....
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One of my dearest friends recently wrote a myspace blog with the same title. I've had this thought many a time. Seeing as I haven't kept up with writing and don't particularly feel like trying to work out the mess that has been tumbling around in my head, I thought I'd write about something a little less complex.

If I had done it your way...

I would have graduated in 4 years.
I would have a GPA I could be proud of.
I would be better with finances.
I wouldn't owe over $100,000 in student loans.
I would have a job.
I would live in Central Illinois.

However, since I did it my way...

I found people, true friends, that understand me.
I learned lessons that no book could ever teach me.
I wouldn't be getting married to the wonderful man that I am.
I would have followed a career path I never would have been satisfied with.
I wouldn't have truly grown up.
I wouldn't be me.

Unlike my friend, I cannot say that I do not have regrets. I have made plenty of mistakes and continue do so. All I can do is try to learn from them and fix them.

And since I'm not in the mood for deep sharing, I'll end with lyrics.

This is how it works
You're young until you're not
You love until you don't
You try until you can't
You laugh until you cry
You cry until you laugh
And everyone must breathe
Until their dying breath

No, this is how it works
You peer inside yourself
You take the things you like
And try to love the things you took
And then you take that love you made
And stick it into some
Someone else's heart
Pumping someone else's blood
And walking arm in arm
You hope it don't get harmed
But even if it does
You'll just do it all again

Current Location: Pella :(
Current Mood: drained drained
Current Music: On the Radio - Regina Spektor

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One day
we'll get out of this shitty apartment
One day
is all it takes for things to turn around now
all i know
is i got you and you got me babe
and when that morning comes ill make coffee and you'll read the paper
we'll talk about are plans and ill keep saying how lucky we are

One day
we'll get in the car and drive anywhere we wanna go
and then we'll stay in a five star mini bar luxury hotel room
cause all i know is i got you and you got me babe
and when that morning comes ill make coffee and youll read the paper
we'll talk about are plans and ill keep saying how lucky we are
how lucky we are

One day
we'll turn on the tv and wont see nothing 'bout war
and when that morning comes ill make coffee and you'll read the paper
we'll talk about are plans and ill keep saying how lucky we are

how lucky, how lucky, how lucky we are

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Current Music: meiko- how lucky we are

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If I didn't love Obama before he sealed the deal tonight.

Shane and I went to Knoxville tonight to see Obama speak (believe it or not Shane actually wanted to go). Obama gave an expected well thought out speech then opened the floor to questions. With a VA hospital closing soon in Knoxville, most of the questions were related to veterans health care. However, one woman asked a question that surprised the hell out of me. She said that in 1986 two drug companies told congress that they needed protection from the families of children that had died due to their vaccines and they would stop producing vaccines otherwise. She wanted to know what Obama would do to stop them from killing babies. His response was flawless. He said that it was more complicated than it appeared. That if negligence was the cause of the deaths, then yes, they should be held responsible. However, he stated that vaccines are of extreme importance, and then referenced the devastation of the Spanish Flu in 1918! He said that vaccines react differently in different people and that if we didn't offer the drug companies some form of protection (while still compensating those families adversely affected) they would stop making vaccines that we very much need. (The conversation was actually much better). I was impressed with his knowledge on the subject and agreed strongly with his opinion (which isn't what I believe the woman wanted to hear).

And that is the highlight of my month... Pella is sucking the life out of me... And I miss my friends a lot... a lot a lot....

Current Location: Pella
Current Mood: drained drained
Current Music: Come to Me - Koop

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